Most of us have probably had the experience of taking off in an airplane in stormy weather. It’s a bit disconcerting isn’t it?
And just when you have convinced and braced yourself for the ensuing fiery crash, the clouds part and sunshine and blue sky appears. That’s always a very good feeling isn’t it?
Well, right now I’m in the clouds, convinced and braced for the ensuing fiery crash.
Oh for sure, I’ve been through dark clouds before. But, not quite like this.
Not with the experience of my mom passing…something that only happens once in a lifetime…like birth and death.
Not with the experience of seriously not knowing where my next meal will come from.
Not with the experience of failing at just about everything.
And not with the experience of feeling as if the fabric of society is torn…
I’ve never experienced anything like this in my lifetime. I didn’t live through the Civil War, or the Great Depression. Perhaps those tumultuous events were similarly disconcerting. And of course, the 60’s were a decade of societal upheaval. I was a bit too young to really be able to say I “lived through them.”
But the 60’s, in many ways, made us better. Will that be the case…this time?
I don’t know.
We all want to cast blame for all that is happening. And we now have the platform of social media in which to do so in a very public way.
We want to say it’s the fault of the democrats, or the republicans, Donald Trump, Hillary Clinton, the minions of either, the military-industrial complex, neoliberalism (guilty!), and so on…
But the real truth is that the “one” who’s at fault is…
US.
We are at fault and perhaps the prime reason is our stubborn unwillingness to listen to each other…and really try to understand one another.
You see, people do what they do and think what they think for deeply personal reasons. And that even applies to deplorable mindsets like racism, or sexism.
I’m not implying that we should accept these ways of thinking. The ideas themselves should be roundly condemned. But we shouldn’t be so quick to accuse, judge, and condemn others who we think might harbor them. Rather we should try to understand why.
As Steven Covey wrote long ago in his famous 7 habits book, “seek first to understand, then to be understood.”
Taking to Facebook and insulting those who think differently is not the way to mend the fabric of society. And right now the fabric of society is torn and frayed. I believe this hyper-media culture that has formed around us, and that is being technologically propelled to ever more intrusive levels, is only making it worse.
This election could be a turning point, or it could mark the complete unraveling of society as we’ve known it.
It will only be the former if we stop insulting one another on Facebook and Twitter and start trying to understand and cooperate with one another, despite our differences.
As the great English philosopher, Bertrand Russell, once said…
Love is wise, hatred is foolish…
In this world, which is getting more and more connected,
we have to learn to tolerate one another.We have to learn to put up with the fact that some people say things that we don’t like.
We can only live together in that way. And if we are to live together and not die together…
We must learn the kind of charity and tolerance that is absolutely essential to the continuation of human life on this planet.
Yes, the fabric of society is torn.
But it can be mended…
The question is, will we?
Sorry for my metaphorical mixing in this, admittedly, platitudinal post. But to end it I will say that I’m completely confident that the clouds will part for me personally…the sunshine and blue sky will finally appear…
I can only hope the same clearing will occur for “US.”
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